I admit to having an internally visceral response to even considering re-reading this material– the Xmas of the first year Mom was home with me was one of the harder times for me to get through, and while I do not wish to suppress the emotions associated with what I learned about myself and this… Continue reading December 20, 2015: Why Christmas is so hard now
Category: 5. Facebook Moments 2015
Over the time since Donna returned home I have often mused on what I was going through, positively and negatively so. Here’s some snapshots of these posts, with a more recent reflection on what was happening then, with the addition of time spent together since. These posts are from the first full year of Donna’s Lessons to me at home, for the year 2015.
October 14, 2015: Mom turns 75
Perhaps obviously, I wrote this in the morning of Mom’s birthday before we went out. I don’t remember all of many days, even many of the better ones of the last few years have had one over-arching vagueness in the memory after the fact. One day at a time life is like that. But I… Continue reading October 14, 2015: Mom turns 75
October 12, 2015: Mom goes to the polls
Elections are a right of people regardless of their ‘competence score’ so long as it is possible in any fashion to determine a non coerced choice for your ballot. As luck would have it, she wore clothing that represented the colour of the differing party candidates. I asked her to point to the colour of… Continue reading October 12, 2015: Mom goes to the polls
October 1, 2015: Mom gets a chair from The Captain
A good friend offered up an old wheelchair he wasn’t using to us a few short months after Mom moved home. I was skeptical, as I both thought she would resent it and that it was bad for her– “don’t use em, lose em” is your muscle tone and strength. But, why not, I thought…… Continue reading October 1, 2015: Mom gets a chair from The Captain
September 27, 2015: Mom couldn’t walk last night
The ability to decompress after something traumatic takes place is a learned skill, at least for myself. Something that is less common now than it was then is well exemplified here– the panic, hyper, over-the-top stimulated and wired I would get from dealing with tough situations would take me days to shake out. Managing emotions… Continue reading September 27, 2015: Mom couldn’t walk last night
September 7, 2015: After the Lake
Having realistic and still beautiful goals makes achieving them possible and gives the feeling you need most: Purpose. The why in doing something needs it’s own answer– and much like activism, there is no score card but simply your own judgement and the change in your surrounding you can invoke that become your barometer. Meet… Continue reading September 7, 2015: After the Lake
September 7, 2015: Labour Day at the lake
In the first summer I spent with Mom, every activity we would discover worked for both of us was another eureka moment. Perhaps, however, as I needed to slow down my own vibrations to take on the running of this home for us and two cats, there was no greater shot in the can-do arm… Continue reading September 7, 2015: Labour Day at the lake
August 13, 2015: Mom is home now
After nearly two weeks, Mom returned home and was stronger than when she left (which is unusual in our situation, as Mom gets less motivated and more lethargic when she is in a hospital or similar facility– as do most of us). I was able to recharge, we were definitively on a new path and… Continue reading August 13, 2015: Mom is home now
July 31, 2015: Mom has a health crisis
This particular time frame isn’t explicated beyond the immediate moments of terror with Mom and her collapsing condition that particular day, but when I referred to things being better in the prior two months as I wrote this, there were a few things I didn’t get into detail about that were also part of what… Continue reading July 31, 2015: Mom has a health crisis
May 18, 2015: Dangerously close to burning out
This is a good day for me to write the introduction to this post, as I’ve had similar levels of exhaustion lately– and, in a way, now that it’s 2018 I am more susceptible to burnout sneaking up on me, as I’m used to low level burn out as a mainstay constant in my life… Continue reading May 18, 2015: Dangerously close to burning out