This process of deepening trust has continued along, and is in many ways the gasoline in my tank. Her deference to me as the one who gets things done– as opposed to being completely against the very concept– means the world. It is her contribution, really.
June 26, 2016
When mom first got sick, her aneurysm in 2005, afterwards she would trust almost anyone but me. When I saw her in the hospital and she was wandering, trying to go where it was not safe into the nurses station and I tried to block that, she would just get mad at me. The very idea of taking any advice, direction, etc from her son was not allowed.
Now, she has been having some struggles with nurses who come to help her shower. She periodically will be having a bad day and tell them ‘no’ to things that are dangerous to say ‘no’ to. Then, after I show up and speak to her about it, she responds very quickly.
She has gone from trusting anyone but me to the opposite. I must be doing something right, it’s the greatest compliment she has ever given me.